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Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Are You Ready to Unfreeze Your Heart and Forgive Your Partner?


   One of our recent recipes for Humble Pie  encouraged you to cook up sincere apologies. However, you or your partner may need the next recipe before you are able to accept the apology. If you need to unfreeze a hurt or angry heart, this recipe for Baked Alaskan Forgiveness may be just what the relationship doctor ordered. If you have been carrying around resentment towards your partner, this recipe is not only necessary for the health of your relationship, it is important for your physical and emotional health. Read on to learn why your health is in jeopardy. It is well worth the effort to master this complicated recipe.
Baked Alaskan Forgiveness

*Note for this recipe most people need to have received a sincere apology from their partner before they can attempt to prepare this challenging recipe. Holding grudges puts excess stress on our bodies. People who hold grudges therefore, are prime candidates for ulcers, migraine headaches, heart conditions and other medical problems. They may also find that if they try to hold in their feelings, they may redirect their anger by suddenly lashing out on their children or other loved ones who have nothing to do with the grudge they are trying to contain. 

Prep Time:  Varies, for some people it takes years, but the sooner you start to prepare this dish the better it will be for your relationship. 

Ingredients:
      1 Hurting Heart filled with resentment
      1 cup of Drop Dead Chocolate Ice Cream
      2 cups of Vanilla Grudge Ice Cream
      3 cups of Crabby Apple sorbet
      2 Teaspoons of rock salt 
      1 pound of sugar (to offset the negative feelings)
      3 egg whites
      Pinch of Cream of Tartar
      3 cups of forgiveness
      6 Tablespoons of Brandy Kisses (no alcohol is needed for this recipe)

Directions: Not all hurting hearts are equal, so this recipe will need to be adjusted according to how much hurt, anger and resentment have built up in your relationship.  If you use too much salt on the open wounds, it will not mix well and take longer to blend. People's ability to forgive also varies significantly, so the time needed to prepare this dish will vary. The more angry and frozen off you have become from your partner, the harder it will be to bake the dessert. Take the ice cream out of the freezer to soften the feelings before starting. 

Slowly start beating the egg whites with the cream of tarter, then gradually add the sugar and forgiveness and increase the mixer to it's highest speed until the whites are glossy and hold stiff peaks to form a meringue. 

Fold the meringue into a cake pan, pile layers of Drop Dead Chocolate, Vanilla Grudge Ice Cream and Crabby Apple Sorbet on the meringue. Then cover the ice cream layers with more meringue. 

Just before serving, melt and pour the brandy kisses onto the dessert. Light the kisses with a match. 

When prepared properly, the angry feelings and grudges will be burned off leaving a warm golden brown layer of sweet forgiveness meringue filled with cool ice cream. 

     In all seriousness, holding grudges not only destroys relationships, it also hurts the person who holds onto their anger. Take the time to find a way to let go of the negative feelings or the distance between you will continue to grow and perhaps become irreparable.
     Have you been holding onto a grudge? Has your partner had an affair, which you have only partially forgiven them for? Or did they fail to support you the way you wanted or needed through a difficult period in your life, after the birth or illness of a child or the loss of a family member? If you have only paid lip service to forgiveness and still hold a grudge, it's important to acknowledge the feelings and find a way to move on. What keeps you from letting go of your negative feelings? If you can't do it on your own, you may want to consider talking to a therapist about your feelings and find a way to move on.
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