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Showing posts with label #sociology. Show all posts
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Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Wednesday's Words of Wisdom: Erich Fromm On the Mother - Child Relationship Paradox


Erich Fromm (in 1975)*
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Thought for the Day: Today's Words of Wisdom come from German born social psychologist, psychoanalyst & sociologist, humanistic philosopher, & democratic socialist, Erich Fromm. In keeping with the Mother's Day theme of the last few weeks, I chose a quote on the paradoxical relationship between mother & child:  "The mother-child relationship is paradoxical &, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother & to become fully independent."
** Photo from Army Photography Contest - 2007

Fromm, a contemporary of Karen Horney who was featured in an earlier post, questioned Freud's theories much to the dismay of the psychoanalytic colleagues. He was particularly interested in the social determination of behavior. His prolific best selling books include Escape From Freedom, one of the first books in the field of political psychology, A Man for Himself & The Art of Loving.

The challenge to both mother & child to find a balance of connection & independence continues for many people throughout their lives. A friend of mine used to say that she would be successful as a mother if she succeeded to have "built-in obsolescence." What are your thoughts on the paradoxical relationship between mother & child?


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*The picture of Erich Fromm (in 1975) is by Müller-May, © Deutsche Verlagsanstalt. The copyright holder of this image allows anyone to use it for any purpose including unrestricted redistribution, commercial use, and modification. Creative Commons 

** photo from 'Army Photography Contest - 2007 - found on FlicrCC
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Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Tuesday's Trends In Psychology: Changing Perceptions of Motherhood Around the World


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Thought for the Day: As I mentioned yesterday, I will be reporting some of the studies from a variety of disciplines presented at the Museum of Motherhood's Conference: A New Motherhood? Evolving Policies, Practices, & Families. I will be giving just a brief synopsis of several studies which raise questions about the state of modern mothers around the world. Feel free to ask questions. If I don't know the answer, I will contact the presenter & find out. As you can see the presentations covered a wide array of subjects from research carried out around the world.

Dr Diana Millilo (Nasau Community College, NY) presented findings in research which compared how resumes of job applicants were perceived when the only difference in the resume was the mention of the applicant having children. For both women & men, the fact that the applicant had children led to a perception of higher warmth, but lower competence in their field of work. Sadly, this finding reinforces the common recommendation not to mention the fact that you have children in job interviews.

Anna Bagirova & Oksana Shubat (Russian Federation) examined stereotypes of motherhood. They theorize these stereotypes may be related to a "long term downward trend in birth rate" in Russia. Despite the fact that there are financial incentives given by the government to encourage people to have children, their results find "no comprehensive understanding of the positive aspects of motherhood" among women in Russia. To the contrary, negative stereotypes of the disadvantages of motherhood are more strongly formed & believed in Russian society.

Reporting her findings with single mothers, called lone mothers in New Zealand, Dr Leslie Patterson, a sociologist from Massey University, looked at whether lone parenting is becoming a "trap" or an "interlude." It appears to be turning into a trap that lone mothers are unable to escape mainly due to financial inequalities they face in New Zealand.

Dr. Gillian Anderson, a sociologist from Vancouver Island University in British Columbia, Canada, questioned what she feels is a misguided promotion by media of "mompreneurship" as an alternative to traditional paid employment for mothers needing to join the work force. By reporting eye-catching success stories of mothers starting businesses in their homes (often with strong financial backing from their husbands for several years before they become financially viable), the media gives the impression that self-employment is the easy answer to mother's need to help support their families & care for their children at the same time. However, self-employment often leads to limited income for years, long hours with less time for children & burn out rather than the flexibility & financial rewards presented in the media.

On Thursday I will present some more of the fascinating findings about the state of motherhood in 2013.

* Photo from FlickrCC: flickr.com/photos/27807834@N02/3629917145

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Wednesday's Words Of Wisdom: Phillip Zimbardo Shyness: A Social Pathology



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Thought for the Day: As we continue to examine the value of friendships, Wednesday’s Words of Wisdom this week come from contemporary psychologist, Philip Zimbardo, who was born in 1933. After earning three undergraduate degrees in psychology, sociology, & anthropology from Brooklyn College, he went on to receive his M.S. at Yale University. Zimbardo is best known for ground-breaking psychological theories & experiments such as the Stanford prison study, Time Paradox, Lucifer Effect, & Abu Ghraib analysis.

For today’s post, I chose a little known quote by Zimbardo on shyness:
         “The level of shyness has gone up dramatically in the last decade. I think
     shyness is an index of social pathology rather than a pathology of the individual.”
If shyness stems from society’s ills & is not an innate disposition, how can we treat the societal pathology? Is it possible this societal illness interferes with developing friendships in our modern world? Does it deter people from responding to or making advances to initiate friendships. Could it be a factor in what I described in Motivational Monday's post as "friendship deprivation?" Since Zimbardo’s observations, has the increase in shyness morphed into a societal distrust & sense of lack of safety? Could this fuel some people’s apprehension & adamant belief in the necessity to own guns to feel safe? If shyness stems from societal problems & the increased fear of strangers that plagues some segments of our society is similar, how can we help reduce these fears & heal the social pathology?

Over the next couple of weeks, I will address these questions as I examine the benefits of friendship to our mental health. The answers are complex. The solutions will take time. But if we grapple with them for long enough, we’re sure to eventually reduce the shyness & fear that’s becoming so prevalent in society.  We need to look to psychology, education, sociology & other disciplines to begin to discover answers. What are your thoughts? I hope you will join me in this discussion.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Thursday's Psychology Trivia: Sex, Lies, Love & Psychology


Last night I saw +EmmyLou Harris and +Rodney Crowell at +Lincoln Center Concert Halls Out Of Doors. It was one of the best concerts I have seen all year! If you live near NYC make some time this weekend for their Americana festival events including performances by #Cassandra Wilson on Friday, +Rosanne Cash & +Buddy Miller on Saturday and another great line up on Sunday. If you live farther away the shows are being streamed live online, so go to #LCOutOfDoors to check out how to see the concerts. Have a great weekend!

Here's the trivia question:
Thought for the Day: Today I am sharing a Trivia question from a post I wrote a year ago: Sex, Lies, Love and Psychology. I have made some changes, by adding some thought provoking questions about love and hope this will raise some discussion about not just sex education, but love education. Here's the question:
       Psychologists believe that love is:
               a) a biological phenomenon
               b) a learned behavior
               c) a motivational drive
               d) a social phenomenon
               e) a basic emotion
               f) a) & d)
               g) b) & d)
What do you think? Is this just trivia or could the answer be important for the mental health of our society?