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Sunday, September 22, 2013

Sunday's Comic Strips: Depression Is Not a Laughing Matter, but Perhaps These Comics Will Help


Thought for the Day: For Sunday's Comics, I chose 4 comics, 21 Comics That Capture The Frustrations Of Depression, by BuzzFeed Staff. Comics sometimes help us laugh at things that are not funny in order to help cope with them. These comics are more thought provoking than funny. If you know someone who is depressed, perhaps these comics will make you think twice & try to understand how hard it is to cope with depression. If you are suffering from depression, they may help you explain to others what it feels like to be you. Depression is an illness. It is not an "act" or something anyone chooses to be. If a friend is depressed, be there for them, listen, try to help them, & encourage them to see a therapist. You cannot fix it for them & they may need a professional to find their way out of the abyss. 
(Thanks to Martin Kluger, Ph.D. & "The Stress-Less Times" for sharing this article)

2. The frustrating way people talk about mental illness versus other illnesses.

The frustrating way people talk about mental illness versus other illnesses.
Art by Susie Cambell.

6. The never-ending cycle of paralysis.

The never-ending cycle of paralysis.
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10. Not being able to recognize yourself.

Not being able to recognize yourself.

14. The difficulties of trying to share your feelings with family

Art by Moose Kleenex.

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Throwback Saturday's Songs for the Soul: Catch A Falling Star

Throwback Saturday: I first posted this in September of 2013. I thought of it today as my brother Larry's birthday would have been next week. I guess I need to pull out the star this week. With all the bad weather we have had over the month of February, his star is helpful for me. Hope you are having a great weekend!

Thought for the Day: I chose an old song today. "Catch A Falling Star," sung by Perry Como. The song, written by Paul Vance & Lee Pockriss, was made famous by Perry Como's hit version, released in 1957. Although it is a love song, it is one that feeds my soul for two reasons. First, I love the sentiment of catching a star & keeping the star shine in your pocket for a "starless night." Wouldn't it be nice if we could pull out the good feelings we have on a wonderful day on the tough days of our lives? The second reason I have always liked this song is that my brother, Larry,  sang it in an elementary school performance. It reminds me of looking up to my older brother singing the song & how proud I was to be his sister. This song helps me hold on to precious moment. So I guess the words ring true for me. Songs can help cope with  rainy days. What songs have helped you in this way? I'd love to hear them & the stories that go with them. Have a wonderful last full day of summer!


Friday, September 20, 2013

Friday's Fabulous Finds: MS, Valerie Harper, Body Language, Bullying & a Dancing Queen




Thought for the Day: Here are 5 Fabulous Finds from a wide range of subjects. Hope you enjoy them & have a great final week of the summer!

1) My 1st Fabulous Find is an article, MS Misdiagnosed as an Anxiety Attack, part of a series called MS Fitness Challenge by David Lyon.

2) Valerie Harper's performance on Dancing With the Stars is another tribute to the power of never giving up on dreams. Harper is contending with brain cancer & outliving the doctor's prognosis. Here's a video from the show.

3) Here's a some additional evidence on the power of "pretending" which we discussed this week in the Psychology Trivia posts. Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy demonstrates how body language affects how others see us and how it  may also change how we see ourselves. Take a look at this TED video which shows how " 'power posing' -- standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident -- can affect testosterone & cortisol levels in the brain, & might even have an impact on our chances for success. "   

4) My fourth Fabulous Find is Dear Santa: Make Kids Stop Bullying My Sister.

5) Finally a story about how a funny Dancing Queen video went viral and landed a job for the woman in the video.

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Thursday's Psychology Trivia Answer: Can Faking Happiness Help Fight Depression?




Thought for the Day: It's Thursday & time for an answer to Tuesday's Psychology Trivia Question: Can pretending you are happy help fight depression? When I wrote the trivia question, I told the story of how I responded to someone on HealthTap’s question about whether his depression & monotone voice on the phone might be hurting his family business. My answer to him included the suggestion that he practice an upbeat phone voice for work. I also told him that it might help him fight the depression. My advice was prompted from various positive psychology studies that have found that a positive attitude can help reduce depression. However, I also knew that the solution to depression is far more complex than smiling more.

    I also wanted to hear from my readers, since I knew you would have thoughts & experiences that might help others dealing with similar issues. I am excited to share some of the responses that people shared here & on other social media sites in response to this non-trivial “trivia” question.

     Bill Brayman’s, a connection of mine on G+, first wrote: "Oh for sure, putting oneself on a program of personal & social positivity will result in less depression & more joy. Lot's of evidence in the positive psychology movement to support this. Certainly deep rooted depression is very tough to struggle against, but I'm certain anyone can make great improvements following a positive program." From the positive psychology world’s & books like Happy for No Reason’s
perspective simplistic prescriptions could turn one’s life around.
 
       Malika Bourne, one of the followers of this blog, raised some serious questions about pretending to be happy. She shared a story about a client she worked with as a nurse. Her client “was very depressed at home & made life miserable for his family.” She escorted him to the doctor every week where he told jokes & acted upbeat. The doctor, a resident, bought into his "happy-go -lucky" act. After months of sitting quietly at the appointments, Malika finally felt compelled to share her observations. The client said, "Well, you know you have to make other people have a good day." In reality, he was in denial that he had a problem. (His depression was related to a head injury.) The doctor then realized that the man “needed more help than what he was getting."


      Plucky Parenting on  G+  comment concurs with Malika’s,  she wrote that "a smile can certainly assist in helping you feel better.  If the underlying problem is not addressed though the depression will continue & no amount of smiling will fix what is truly wrong!"

     One of my connections on LinkedIn, Cesar Vieira, raised questions about depression from the physiological perspective. If depression is a biologically based illness,  like diabetes, which many professionals believe, his view that pretending will not reduce depression may be accurate. He wrote, “in a way I actually think that would lead to split personalities. Possibly also result in deeper depression due to the build up of unhappiness during pretense periods. At the end of the day, pretending does not alter the mechanisms activated in the body when unhappy, it could happen but I find it unlikely.”
       My G+ friend Bill Brayman added another perspective yesterday, after he read an article called Depression's Evolutionary Roots,  in The Scientific American. The article’s authors, , suggest that "depression is not a malfunction, but a mental adaptation that brings certain cognitive advantages." They propose that "depression is nature’s way of telling you that you’ve got complex social problems that the mind is intent on solving." The goal of many types of therapy is to encourage & examine depressive thoughts instead of trying to stop them (as long as the person is safe). In addition, many therapists focus on & try to help people solve the problems that have triggered their depression in the first place. This would be similar to some of the Freudian theories of defense mechanisms. Depression could be seen as a coping mechanism, perhaps that when overused stops being productive.
     So, you may be wondering, what is the answer to the trivia question? From positive psychology’s point of view, pretending may help. If depression is biologically based, pretending to be happy won’t help but it may also hinder the person’s ability to cope with depression. The evolutionary school of thought would also find pretending to be happy as a mistake, since it would make the person avoid our brain’s innate mechanism designed to help us cope with stress.
     My answer to the question is that depression is a complex phenomenon. The solutions, therefore,  are complex as well. Sometimes, simple positive psychology interventions will help get someone unstuck  & enable them to try out more positive ways of coping with their problems. Not as a denial of the issues, but as an adjunct to other kinds of therapy. Hence, the man from HealthTap would surely need to continue working in therapy on the issues that have led to his long standing depression. Having better phone conversations with his prospective clients could lead to more sales. More sales could enhance his self esteem & increase his feelings of self worth. On the other hand, examining the roots of his depression in therapy would be necessary as well. In addition, not all depressions are the same. Some are more reactive, some seem to be more biological in origin. The more biologically based types of depression, which often run in families, have a greater risk of suicide, making medications a necessary element in the treatment. Sometimes, without medication, the person simply cannot address the issues in therapy at all.
     Thanks for all your thoughtful comments, I hope you will continue sharing your thoughts on this & other posts in the future. I hope this has shed some light on the subject & some of the therapeutic interventions available for you or those you know who are struggling with depression.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Throwback Wednesday: Words of Wisdom by Dr. Seuss and Dr. Lavi

Thought for the Day: Here's an older post from my Wednesday's Words of Wisdom Series. It connects to the trivia question I will be answering tomorrow, but only looks at one angle to the complex question I asked about whether pretending to be happy can help fight depression.  Here's what I wrote a while back:

Thought of the Day: In Wednesday's Words of Wisdom I have brought quotes from great psychologists, psychiatrists & teachers. Today's quote comes from a great artist & author of 45 children's books who has inspired generations of children (& their parents) with humor, creativity & a genuine desire to make the world a more caring peaceful place. 
Born Theodor Seuss Geisel in 1904, very few people know his real name. Geisel is known around the world as Dr. Seuss. He adopted the name Dr. Seuss in his early career as an undergraduate student at Dartmouth University. Although he began a graduate degree at Oxford University, he dropped out & pursued cartooning full time.  His 1st book was rejected by 27 publishers before it was accepted; it was not long before he became an acclaimed children's author.  His list of best selling books, including The Cat in the Hat & Green Eggs and Ham, have been translated into more than twenty languages & over 200 million copies have been sold around the world.
It is an understatement to say that Dr. Seuss' books have made a lasting impression on many generations around the world. His unique, creative illustrations, whacky rhymes & simple words of wisdom are read & recited repeatedly not only in homes, but also on TV, ia Broadway musical & movie renditions of his work. From children books, quotes, to controversial adult books, such as The Butter Battle Book, his messages resonate loud & clear. 
Although I love this quote by Dr. Seuss, "Don’t cry because it’s over but smile because it happened,” I feel a need to change it a bit. Instead I would say: "Cry because its over until you can smile because it happened." Encouraging people to let themselves cry when they are grieving is important. By teaching our children & ourselves that crying is a healthy way to release our darker emotions, we all can make room eventually for the brighter feelings of joy & gratitude when we remember what we have lost.
Although Dr. Seuss passed away in 1991, his memory will live on with his treasure trove of books & illustrations which will bring smiles to all who read his work.

Photos:
Top Right: From Wikipedia Commons {{Information |Source=Library of Congress Prints and Photographs Division. New York World-Telegram and the Sun Newspaper Photograph Collection. http://hdl.loc.gov/loc.pnp/cph.3c16956 |Description= Ted Geisel (Dr. Seuss) half-length portrait, seated at  photo 2

Bottom Left : FlickrCC.com  'Green Eggs and Ham' http-/www.flickr.com/photos/92382806@N00/422005531
Bottom Middle: FlickrCC.com 'Happy Birthday Dr. Seuss' http-/www.flickr.com/photos/8489692@N03/4400664151
Bottom Right: FlickrCC.com 'DSC_2174' http-/www.flickr.com/photos/51035747113@N01/10920509

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Tuesday's Psychology Trivia: Can a Smile Be Your Umbrella & Help Fight Depression?


Thought for the Day: It's Tuesday and time for a Psychology Trivia Question. Somewhat like yesterday's Motivational Monday's blog post, this one was inspired by a question I responded to on HealthTap. A person who has been suffering from depression for 8 years asked whether  their monotone voice on the phone could be hurting the family business that they help run. I encouraged them to practice a more positive phone voice, like an actor does for a play.
Here's my question:
         Can pretending to be upbeat and happy fight depression?

What do you think? I'd love to hear your thoughts and suggestions for the person worried about how their depression is impacting on their business. I'll post my answer on Thursday.

Monday, September 16, 2013

Flashback Monday & Tuesday: Life's Festival Goes On Rain or Shine With No Refunds for Unused Tickets



Thought for the Day: I have a very busy week & decided to repost this post for both Monday and Tuesday this week. I wrote it last September. Sometimes it's a good idea to look back & reflect. This post is well worth paying attention to more than once a year. Here's what I wrote back then:
 On Friday night I went to services. I do not go on a regular basis, but it was Yom Kippur, The Day of Atonement, which is the holiest day of the year for Jewish people. Originally, our plan was to go to services in Boston, but plans changed. Jerry, my partner, has been swamped in a new position in school. He was too tired to travel & we would have missed the Friday night service anyway. When a friend called & was planning to go in White Plains with her daughter, son-in-law & 4 month old grand son, I decided to join them. They were going to a service at Beit Am Shalom, a reconstructionist synagogue, which holds their services in a huge tent beside their building. They do not require tickets & only ask for a donation. They do not want anyone to avoid participation due to the high cost of membership. The service was beautiful. The music was both traditional & creative. The Rabbi & his wife, who is the Cantor (musical leader), add beautiful harmonies to the prayers. The entire congregation joined in. It was both welcoming & inspiring.

The service was a bit too long for our youngest group member. Therefore, unfortunately, I missed everything but the introduction to the sermon. The Rabbi spoke about being at a music festival at the end of the summer. The words on the ticket resonated with him in relation to the Day of Atonement. The tickets said that the gates to the venue would be open from 10 AM till 10 PM, that the concert would be held, Rain or Shine & there would be no refunds. He repeated those phrases a few times before I had to leave. The parallel to life, however, seemed fairly clear to me. We all get one ticket to the festival. The show goes on rain or shine for a limited time. The only difference is that we only know when the event gates open. No one knows the exact time that the gates will close on our lives. We can't get a refund or a second chance in life as far as we know.

     I don't know where the Rabbi took this message, but yesterday, while answering questions on HealthTap a few of the questions & answers I gave took on a different meaning when seen through the metaphor of life as a summer music festival. 
     A 27 year-old male on HealthTap asked:
        " I am anxious to the point I can't even leave my couch for more than daily needs. I'm so scared  about my health .1mg xanax won't even work?"
Read on to see how I answered him and two others who may be missing out on the festival of life;..