Wednesday's Words of Wisdom: The Hidden Dangers of Not Hearing Apologies

Thought for the Day: Earlier this week I reposted an article, Sorry May Be The Hardest Word In Any Language, on why learning to apologize is vital to healthy relationships. One of my readers, María Gilbert 

noted that 

"there are some apologies that we don't hear, and yet they're the loudest." 

Maria was speaking about times when people's remorseful behavior is an attempt to apologize. However, her comment made me think about the times when someone apologizes to us, but we fail to hear them. My previous blogpost addressed the importance of owning your mistakes and apologizing, but what are the hidden dangers of not hearing apologies? The title of this post is intentionally ambiguous. In addition to the possibility of not hearing a sincere apology when it is given, it also refers to holding a grudge when apologies are not forthcoming. Both can cause serious harm to our mental health. Read on to see the hidden dangers of not hearing apologies...

Wednesday's Words of Wisdom: Three Ways Grudges Are Like Malignant Tumors

Thought for the Day: In light of the Days of Awe which I discussed on Tuesday, accounting for misdeeds towards others is on my mind. Today's quote came to me from years of work with individuals and couples in therapy.

"Grudges are like malignant tumors, left untreated, they will destroy any relationship."

Unlike tumors, there are no benign grudges. When people hold grudges, it always causes harm. A grudge is one way of expressing anger. We don't tend to hold grudges against strangers. We reserve the "honor" for friends and family members. What many people don't realize is that holding grudges can be harmful to your health. Here's three ways that grudges are like malignant tumors...

Tuesday's Psychological Trivia: Is Anger Bad for Your Health?

Thought for the Day: Today's trivia question comes from a discussion started by Karla Taylor, MEd, LPC  on Therapists Linked, a group on LinkedIn: 

                 True or False: Is Anger Bad for Your Health? 

     Please share your thoughts & comments on whether anger is bad for your health & why you believe your answer is the correct one.

Come back tomorrow for What If? Wednesdays' video & Thursday's solution to this question. There may also be an added post from Washington DC & Mom's Take the Hill (see Motivational Monday's post for more information if you missed it.)